Do you suspect cheating? Have you ever been cheated on? This is the most devastating experience that one can go through. Over 60%of married couples struggle with infidelity in their marriage. When cheating is not discovered early enough, it can lead to separation and divorce. Learn more about divorce here
Many men find cheating thrilling. It breaks their monotony of being in a relationship with one partner. Perhaps, the reason why you are reading this post is because you suspect cheating. The following tips will assist in your research.
1. Suspect Cheating? Watch His Dressing
Has he changed his ward rope? Is he suddenly more sensitive in his looks? Chances are, he is trying to impress someone. If he is lately dressing nicely and buying new innerwear and shirts than ever before, probably, he is trying to impress someone else if not you.
2. Change in Smell
Keep a regular check on his clothes, especially the shirts. Check for any lipstick stains and strange perfumes. Sometimes, he might start buying perfumes he wasn’t initially interested in. Further, his haircut might change too, he’s probably trying to impress his mistress.
Previously, his weight was never an issue. However, lately, it has become an issue to the extent of going for workouts. The thought of someone else desiring him, makes him want to look different and attractive. Suspect cheating and be on the lookout.
2. Sudden Change in Sex Life.
A sudden increase /decrease in sexual activity without any medical issues is a red flag. Men are known to have a higher sex drive than women. If your husband lately does not want to go to bed at the same time as you, he is slowly losing that emotional connection to you. Probably he is emotionally connected and attracted to someone else.
Gradually, he may stop responding even when you wear seductively, become distant even when you are unclothed, or stop initiating sex like before. Alternatively, he may initiate sex, but introduce new activities that he has never done before. Note that these activities may have been gathered from his mistress.
Sexual intimacy in marriage is very important. It reduces stress and strengthens the relationship. If it is denied, the relationship is on the verge of death. I have a friend who never suspected that his husband was cheating on her until she was infected with an STD.
This was a clear indicator that her husband was sleeping with someone else. It was more painful especially because she would never at any time suspect cheating.
3. Being Overly Sensitive About His Phone or Laptop
If you suspect cheating, be keen on how he handles his phone and laptop. Does he react negatively when you take them? If so, he is hiding something in them. Normally, a cheater will change passwords when he doesn’t want you to see some things on his phone. These could be photos or text messages
This explains why he will want to carry his phone everywhere, even when going to the bathroom. Previously, he would leave it with you while he takes a shower. Lately, he fears that someone might call or text while you are using his phone or laptop.
Likewise, he sneaks to make and answer calls. He also spends most of his time on the phone, a thing he wasn’t doing before. Moreover, likes all the posts from a certain lady on social media. If you ask him, about it, he will deny it and become irritated or defensive.
A cheater will hide his phone away from you. He has a lot to hide. Furthermore, he will not be at peace If you borrow it to check on a funny video or listen to a song.
4. Changes in His Attitude
More often than not, he will be irritable by little things that never bothered him before. He may pick up fights over petty issues. Initially, he was polite and loving. Nowadays, he looks angry and confused. He doesn’t see anything good in whatever you do or say. This is a red flag. Probably, he is emotionally attached to someone else. He feels angry because you are the reason he cannot be with her.
5. Change in Communication
Generally, you can suspect cheating from the way he speaks. If he looks bored and unreachable, keeps quiet when you ask a question, or responds in one word, then he is most likely cheating on you.
Unlike before, he may leave the house without saying a word. Ordinarily, he may stop saying “I love you” and look busy doing his stuff. Similarly, he might stop involving you in his affairs. This is a clear indicator that he no longer enjoys your presence.
6. Is He Often Talking About Someone New?
If you suspect cheating, be keen on what your husband says. He could be talking probably about a certain new co-worker or friend whenever you are with him. A day will not end without him talking about her. Chances are, he is excited about meeting a new catch. Alternatively, you will come across a new number in his phone. A number that is frequent on his call log.
7. Suspect Cheating if he Acts indifferently
Any change in his actions lately? Has he become lazy around the house? Doesn’t spend time with the kids like before? Be keen on how he responds to family events such as birthdays, anniversaries, or gatherings. Perhaps, he is no longer interested in those events. chances are, he is having a good time with someone else.
Despite what you say or do, he may no longer be jealous. The only thing that he may probably be keen on and curious about is your comings and goings. For instance, he is more concerned about when you will go to visit your relatives. That will be a good chance for him to spend a night away with his mistress.
8. Suspect Cheating If he Lately Has Busy Work Schedule
He may regularly ask questions like “When are you going to the village?” so that he can plan for his dinners with the other woman. Equally, he will spend most of his time in the “office”. Be observant of his busy working schedule. He may have become a workaholic lately to an extent of missing most of the family gatherings.
9. Excuses of Being Away from Home
One of the obvious reasons to suspect cheating is when your husband starts coming home late from work. It may spill over to the wee hours of the night or on weekends. At the same time, seminars and business trips may start being frequent.
Furthermore, he may stop being interested in his hobbies such as playing football. You may notice a change in his hobby for something different like watching movies or gardening. Probably that is what his mistress enjoy doing.
10. Too Many Gifts-Red Flags for Cheating
Does he nowadays surprise you with gifts? Some cheaters buy flowers and other gifts for their spouses to hide their guilt. Gifts and outings are not always a sign of love and commitment.
Those gifts and trips may be a way to cover up the guilt of his love affairs. Be keen.
11. No More “We”
In the past, the two of you would perhaps go to church together, and pass by places on your way home. He enjoyed taking you out or accompanying him to various places. nowadays, he enjoys his own company. If you cannot remember the last time he went to church with you, then there is cause for alarm.
12. Being Dishonest
For you to suspect cheating, you must have discovered a change in his behavior. Probably, he has become more secretive and dishonest. For instance, he may lie to you that he is somewhere watching a football match or attending to a client. alternatively, he will lie to you of his whereabouts.
13. How About His Car?
Be keen on how he takes care of his car. If he is cheating, he will tend to clean it more than usual. He may even buy an air freshener which he wasn’t fond of before. All this, to impress his mistress. Moreover he will keep it clean and will not give you freedom to be in it. Probably because, he keeps photos and condoms and other strange things in it.
Conclusion
If there are all indicators that your husband is cheating on you, carry out your investigations well before confronting him. Moreover, if turns out that he is cheating, all hope is not lost. You can still do a lot to change his behavior. Read more about what men want in women.
Before approaching him on the matter, read my previous article. It will give you awesome tips on how to deal with a cheater.
