I believe you are reading this blog because you want to learn how to raise a low sex drive. You are at the right place because I will walk you through the common causes and treatment for your problem.
A low sex drive is a decrease in the desire for sexual activity. One has no sexual fantasies. 
Although orgasm is arrived at through sensual foreplay, about 90% of women struggle to achieve it. They suffer from orgasmic dysfunction (inability to orgasm during sexual intercourse).
Your Worries…
Perhaps you are ashamed of sharing the problem with your spouse. Furthermore, you always fake an orgasm to please him. As a result, you feel distressed and frustrated because your problem is not solved.
It is important that you understand the reason as to why you don’t attain an orgasm. It will help you learn how to raise a low sex drive. In addition, you will address the issue early enough and enjoy a more satisfying sexual experience.
Generally, many factors may be preventing you from reaching climax. Some of them include;
Lack of Enough Foreplay.
Your husband may be neglecting sensual foreplay during sexual intercourse. Consequently, that is the reason why you have no sexual desires. Having a low sex drive, you need sexual stimulation through foreplay. Ask your man to caress the erogenous zones. Since women take around 15 minutes to reach climax, penetration alone will not raise a low sex drive. Therefore, clitoral stimulation is a good way of preparing you for great sex.
Psychological Factors and Trauma = Low Sex Drive
Many young girls are abused by irresponsible men who entice them with small gifts. Some men threaten to kill them if they reported the matter to their parents. These girls suffer psychologically for they have no one to talk to. They will grow hating men and at the same time, having a low sex drive.
Trauma can affect your sexual experience for the rest of your life. Consequently, you experience a low sex drive even after getting married. For this reason, you will need to seek psychotherapy. The therapist will teach you how to cope with stress and forget the trauma.
Some cultures have a negative belief that sex is evil and dirty. Moreover, discussing sex is considered taboo. It can also make you feel embarrassed. On the other hand, Lack of enough knowledge about sex can lead to a low sex drive.
Relationships Problem.
Do you know that your partner can cause a low sex drive? For instance, if he is an alcoholic, he may lack enough time to cater to your sexual needs. Similarly, If he has ever cheated on you, there will be mistrust towards him. At the same time, you will not enjoy having sex with him. In any case, you will feel betrayed and disrespected. Read more about cheating in my previous post.
Always ensure that you resolve issues before making love with your spouse. After all, communication is the key to any relationship problems. Also, be open to each other on matters related to sex. As a result, your spouse will learn what is best for you.
low Oxytocin Level = Low Sex Drive
Oxytocin is a hormone that raises sexual desires. It makes you feel good during sexual intercourse. If little of it is produced during lovemaking, then you will have a low sex drive. When you are stressed, your body produces low Oxytocin hormone. This hormone makes you experience a low sex drive.
What Should You Do About it?
Before you decide to visit a Doctor, there are a few things you can try to ascertain whether your body is working normally. Observe eye contact with your partner during lovemaking. Many couples do it in the wrong way because they prefer to switch off the lights during this activity.
Secondly, fantasise about something pleasant to boost the production of this important hormone. for instance, a fantastic pornographic movie that you watched. It will help raise a low sex drive.
Pelvic Floor Dysfunction.
In normal circumstances, the muscles at the base of the pelvis should automatically relax when one is sexually aroused. The muscles may fail to relax during sex. As a result, you will experience a low sex drive accompanied by painful sex. To strengthen the pelvis muscles, do kegel exercises. Kegel practice is a powerful exercise that will restore your low sex drive.
Hormonal Changes
Some hormonal changes may lead to vaginal dryness or a burning sensation in your vagina during sex. For instance, menopause and breastfeeding come along with low oestrogen and progesterone levels in the blood. Consequently, there is dryness in the vagina that leads to dry sex. A doctor can perform oestrogen or testosterone therapy. It is a process that involves taking some medication for lubricating the vagina.
Alternatively, he might recommend some arousal oils or gels that increase the amount of blood flow to the genitals. As a result, there will be increased vaginal sensitivity.
No Underlying Problem
Some women have a low sex drive without any underlying problem. Doctors refer to this as HSDD [hypoactive sexual desire disorder]. It is a condition whereby you may have arousal disorders and lack the mood for sex.
Consequently, you have trouble getting aroused during any form of sexual foreplay. However, there are plenty of medications for this condition.
Nevertheless, before trying any medication, start with lobes. It’s a gel that lubricates the vagina, thereby increasing pleasure. Secondly, add some sex toys to your love-making sessions. There is nothing wrong with introducing sex toys in to your bedroom. If these do not respond well, then you can seek medical attention
A low self-esteem.
Nowadays, there is a lot of body shaming around social media. People post different body shapes and appreciate the attractive ones while criticising the unattractive ones. As a result, the unattractive ones end up with a low self esteem. Some women are worried about their unattractive body shape. A few others about their dark skin.
Because, sexual feelings begin from your mind, it’s important not to overthink. After all, your man will not focus on how you look during sexual intercourse. Be confident of your body shape and appreciate it as it is. Secondly, stick to one sexual partner to avoid exposing your body to many people who will thereafter discuss you in public. You will stop feeling embarrassed and eventually, your low sex drive will rise. Also, dimming the lights can help reduce embarrassment during lovemaking.
Painful Sex.
You cannot boost a low sex drive if you experience pain during sex. First, seek medical treatment. Don’t force yourself into sex to please your partner. It will be a nightmare for you. Vaginal infections such as candidiasis can be a source of painful sex. Visit a doctor each time you have pain during sex to determine the cause.
Low Body Lubrication.
Surprisingly, some women experience dryness during sexual intercourse. No matter how aroused you are, insufficient vaginal lubrication can prevent you from attaining an orgasm or enjoying sex. Furthermore, it causes friction that leads to painful sex.
The solution to this problem is simply buying a commercial lubricant from a cosmetics shop or pharmacy. It is also available in most online stores worldwide.
Too Much Focus on Results.
Many women make a mistake of trying too hard to achieve an orgasm or to squirt. Therefore, they fail to be psychologically set for the game. Don’t focus more on the outcome but rather on enjoying the experience. Also, don’t try too much to achieve an orgasm. On the contrary, relax and have an open mind. An orgasm will come as a result of this relaxation.
Surprisingly, sex can still be enjoyable without an orgasm. Many women become worried about the fact that they are taking too long to climax. Nonetheless, they end up feeling like they are letting their husbands down. As a result, they fail to attain an orgasm.
What should you do?
Like I said earlier on, women take an average of 15 to 20 minutes to climax. On the other hand, men take approximately 5 minutes. With this in mind, let your partner know how your body works. He should not rush into penetration. Let him take a lot of time on sensual foreplay. Get more tips from my previous post by clicking on the link above.
Conclusion
I know you will be surprised when I say that masturbation is the best treatment for most sexual disorders. That is true, especially for those women who have never achieved an orgasm. Explore your body and learn what feels good for you. Ask your partner to focus on those pleasure points.
Furthermore, you can also buy sex toys that you can use with your partner. Sex toys are available online in many leading cosmetic stores.
Finally, a lot of practice will raise your low self-drive. Later you will learn how to squirt. The bond between you and your partner will be stronger leading to a happier marriage.
If you are experiencing a persistence low sex drive even after practising the the above tips, consult a doctor. I hope this article was helpful. Please subscribe and share with Friends
