Lesbian relationships are romantic relationships between women. These relationships have become common in this world today. In this blog, I will walk you through diverse expressions and identities of lesbian relationships. I will also inform you about the challenges that they face.
Lesbian relationship.
Lesbianism is a natural expression of sexual orientation. One has very little or no control over it. Like any relationship, it varies in terms of how they communicate, behave, handle conflicts, and their levels of intimacy.
Did you know that both young teenage girls and married women practice lesbianism? It is a natural feeling from within. Surprisingly, research has shown that lesbian relationships offer more care, comfort, and companionship. They usually form a stronger emotional bond and satisfaction than straight relationships. Many lesbian couples prefer to hang out and spend most of their time together. They end up feeling happier and more relaxed.
Is marriage important?
Every marriage brings about social, economic, and emotional support to couples. Research has found that Married couples in a stable relationship experience better health. They offer support during times of distress. Naturally, women who do not find male partners to settle down with, might result into lesbianism. With this in mind, it is important to respect them instead of condemning. it is not their fault that they became lesbians.
Are you a lesbian?
Genetic factors affect lesbian relationships . Most women discover their sexuality at the beginning of adolescence. They begin to feel attracted to other women. it’s at this time that they realise they are lesbians.
Little-known Aspects of Lesbian Relationships
Any woman can be a lesbian. When a woman flirts with, or gives you all the attention you require, you might result into lesbianism. In this case it will be against your will. Lesbian relationships are not just for sexual satisfaction. Indeed, they offer emotional connection and intimacy just like any straight relationship. Gradually, the couple fall in love with each other.
Ever Dreamt With Another Woman?
Generally, having an intimate dream with another woman does not make you a lesbian. At least once in your lifetime, you have dreamt being in an intimate relationship with another woman. This is normal and should not worry you. Moreover, It does not define you as a lesbian. Just like straight relationships, love and attraction for each other determines lesbian relationships.
Do Lesbian Relationships Break up?
Did you know that lesbian relationships also face conflicts, misunderstandings and breakups? Additionally, they experience good and bad times. The couples involved require communication, respect, trust, and commitment for the relationship to thrive.
Naturally, lesbian relationships are a valid and natural part of human sexuality. Nobody chooses to become a lesbian. on the contrary, a person becomes attracted to someone irrespective of the gender. However, social environment greatly determines whether one will become a lesbian or not.
How you dress, pose, talk, and laugh does not make you a lesbian. It is your self-identification that makes you one. With this in mind, never judge a woman by her looks. Some are masculine and yet not lesbians. Others dress more like men due to their personal decisions and interests and nothing more. With this in mind, never judge someone’s sexuality based on how she dresses.
Nevertheless, lesbian relationships are not free from health risks. The couple is at a risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases just like any other relationship. One is at a risk of contracting cervical cancer and should always go for screening. remember, screening is important for every sexually active woman.
Myths in lesbianism
There are many misconceptions about lesbianism. These include,
Being a lesbian is by choice.
Sexual orientation is genetic. Many people think that lesbianism is a choice. Well, it is not. Most people will have no choice on their sexuality. However, you can avoid lesbianism through measures such as counselling and therapy. Also, hanging out with friends who are not lesbians will reduce your chances of becoming one.
You can tell a lesbian by her looks.
A lesbian cannot physically be differentiated. Looks are deceiving. Some women prefer to dress like men, yet they are not lesbians. Others will prefer to shave their hair, yet they are in straight relationships. Nowadays, in many African countries, short hair is fashionable. Research has shown that 1 in every 10 ladies have shaved their hair.
lesbianism and masculinity….
One person in a lesbian relationship has to act in a masculine way.
Lesbians who appear masculine or behave like males do so for their interests. However, as I said earlier, many women who have biological inadequacies (such as small breasts, broad shoulders, and a horse voice) may result into lesbianism due to inferiority complex. They may not feel attractive enough to be around men.
Lesbians hate men
The fact that a woman feels emotionally attracted to another woman does not make her hate men. Some women become lesbians while still in straight relationships. Others become lesbians after a breakup with their husbands. Furthermore, they feel more emotionally attracted to women than men. Any girl who faced sexual abuse during childhood will feel safer around other girls, away from boys. She will grow knowing that boys are bad. She will spend all her time with them consequently leading to lesbianism.
Lesbians are immoral and Non-Godly
Many denominations condemn lesbian relationships. However, there are a few of them that support it. In 2022, i visited a church in Kenya where all the worshippers are lesbians, including the pastor. Have you heard about it in any social media platform? Lesbians seek acceptance and support from society by forming their own organisations and groups. In this era, they have resulted to having their own worshipping centres away from people who rebuke and harass them. They feel accepted and loved away from the members of public who stare and view them as sinners who require redemption.
causes of lesbianism
Did you read my previous blog on Teenage lesbian? I talked widely about the causes of lesbianism. Please click on that link above for more details. However, let me brief you on some of these causes.
From your peers
Did you know that you can acquire lesbianism from your friends? Any woman can become involved in lesbian relationships unwillingly. Indeed, If you hang around lesbians, chances are, you will become one as well. A lady might be-friend and be good to you to such an extent that whenever you require a friend to talk to, she will always be there for you. Slowly, she will flirt with you. After all, birds of the same feather flock together.
Genetics
Generally, girls who have a boyish figure might find comfort hanging around other girls. They feel inferior around boys as they consider themselves less attractive. Consequently, they develop feelings for the girls resulting into lesbianism.
Social environment
Unfavourable social Environment is another cause of lesbianism among girls. Girls who live in an environment with no boys around consequently engage in masturbation. Many of them are unable to control their sexual urge. They result into lesbianism especially in boarding schools.
Divorce
Divorce is a major cause of lesbianism among women. When a woman separates from her husband, she is unable to control her sexual urge. She begins to masturbate consequently ending up in lesbianism. This is true if she fails to get another marriage partner.
Teenage girls are recruited into lesbian relationships by others who have been into it for a long time. An experienced girl may approach another teenager who has never been into it. She will try all methods such as doing her favours and spending more time with her in order to win her love. Eventually, she will flirt and seduce her into lesbianism.
How long does lesbian relationships last?
Nowadays, people In America support lesbianism more than they used to few years back. In 2015, L G B T Q became legalised and many lesbians were able to come out. However, how long a lesbian relationship lasts will depend on many factors. Like any straight relationship, love, faithfulness, and commitment determine how long a marriage lasts. couples who are faithful, committed and respectful to each other stays together.
Challenges of lesbian relationships
lesbians often face many problems in their love life. some of these problems include,
lack of recognition
One of the problems that lesbians face is the lack of legal recognition from many countries. No matter how much two women love each other, Social barriers prevent them from being together. In many societies, it is illegal and punishable by law to engage in lesbianism. The society ignore and harass lesbians. Conversely, many couples will not come out for fear of rejection. Instead, they will suffer in silence leading to stress and depression.
Lesbians are few and invisible.
Because they fail to stand out from the general public, It is not possible single out one from the crowd. Self-revelation is limited due to homophobia. Its therefore not easy to know who is homosexual among many women and who is not. Many African schools suspend girls who engage in lesbianism. They punish by expelling the girls for two weeks. They are harassed by their colleagues, families and general public. No one understands how they feel. As a result, they keep their relationship secretive.
Cancer and lesbianism
Higher rates of cancer.
Due to reduced access to cancer screening, lesbians risk their health. Many of them think that they are not at risk of cervical cancer because they are not sexually active with males. Contrary to their thinking, cervical cancer is more pronounced in lesbians. Research as shown that few lesbians go for screening. Cancer is detected at an advanced stage.
Drug abuse and mental problem among lesbian relationships.
Unfavourable social conditions can lead to depression, anxiety, drug abuse, or even suicide. The couple feels rejected, misunderstood, and isolated. To overcome the feeling, many of them result into drug abuse.
Lesbians don’t enjoy their privacy in public places. Whenever they hang out with their loved ones, people stare and gossip them. Some take pictures and videos of them to share in the social media platforms.
Conclusion
Lesbian relationships are unique in their own way. Trust and faithfulness determine the kind of relationships that people have. No one would want to stay in a disrespectful and abusive relationship. On the other hand, no one wants to end an emotionally satisfying relationship that is full of respect, love and understanding.
Within the relationship,women may feel unseen, overlooked,and discriminated upon in the society. Life is challenging for them. lets all understand and appreciate each one of us the way she is.
