Are you a single parent looking for ways of thriving in singlehood? Worry no more because in this blog, I will explore the six most powerful ways to help you regain the strength and joy you’ve lost in your life.

In this World, many single parents are raising their kids. Research shows that approximately 1 in 5 kids were raised by a single parent.

You must therefore accept the situation as it is and focus on your future and your kids’. Being single does not mean a life full of loneliness and lack of progression, as many people might think.

Actually, it’s an opportunity for you to progress in your career without any obstacles. Work hard and set proper goals in your life.

Let’s dive deep into the six most powerful ways of thriving in singlehood without loneliness that I have gathered for you.

1. Proper Finance Management– the most powerful way of thriving in singlehood

Thriving in singlehood entails living within your means. Please don’t compare yourself to others, especially married people. Remember, all the responsibilities are yours and no one to share with.

Budgeting should be the most important aspect of managing finances. You cannot afford to spend money unthinkingly because you will have no one to look up to. Spend it wisely while keeping your bank accounts in good shape.

If your financial responsibilities exceed expectations, create a prioritisation scale that fits your budget. Don’t buy things just because you saw your friends buying them. Spend your money wisely.

If your income allows, set aside a few coins for savings in case of uncertainties like sickness that might come your way. In addition, avoid taking on too much debt, as it might mess up your budget. It can become very traumatising, especially if you have no one to call for assistance.

Perhaps you also need to cut down on bills. It will help you avoid waste and set aside a significant amount for savings.

Sometimes you might consider selling home appliances you no longer need. All the old clothes and shoes in your house can be turned into cash. Moreover, your house will be more organised without all those unnecessary items.

2. Being Organised

Most Single parents lack the time to keep their house in order. Thriving in singlehood will involve keeping both your home and your schedule organised.

Establish consistent routine activities so your kids know what is expected of them at any given time. It will help you have an easy time without unnecessary yelling or shouting. At the same time, they will grow up being responsible children.

Similarly, routines such as bedtime, feeding time, and cleaning time should be consistent. It will save you a lot of time. 

Likewise, if your finances allow, plan and shop weekly rather than daily. It will not only save you time but also reduce the money you spend on buying items in small quantities.

Just a reminder: don’t forget the kids in your plans. Make time for them, no matter how busy your schedule is. Have meals together, as this is a good way to connect with them. It also improves their eating habits and helps them avoid hating meals.

Spare some minutes each week to play, jump, or even walk with them. It’s a good way to strengthen the bond between you and them and to exercise.

3. Building a community

You need people to encourage you during difficult moments. Consider organising with other single women to go out for coffee or have a chat right in your house. They will understand what you are going through and also offer help where they can.

Although friendship is good, choose the right friends. At times, a company of married people might leave you feeling inferior. They may not understand that, as a single parent, you have limited time.

If you don’t have friends yet, there are many WhatsApp and Facebook groups for single parents.

It’s in these groups that you can share many experiences. You can also ask several questions about being single.

These social networks are good because they will always remind you that you are not alone. You will meet many role models who will offer encouragement and strength to help you move on. Create time for these meaningful interactions.

4. Self-Care

You need enough hours of sleep each day for good health. Sometimes, if time allows, take a nap during the day. It will reduce fatigue after a long day’s work.

Being a woman, I realised that house chores never end. They keep recurring now and then. Therefore, do what you can and leave the rest for another day.

You are not a perfect woman in the sense that everything in your house must be perfect. For instance, you don’t have to mop your house every day, even when you are really tired. The utensils are better cleaned early in the morning after waking up.

Finally, take good care of your body. Spare some time for manicures and pedicures, and probably some makeup. Fill yourself with activities that make you feel relaxed and fulfilled as a single woman.

If you want people to see a strong woman in you, one who is thriving in singlehood, then look attractive. Despite having children, you might meet another single parent who may get attracted to you and settle down with them.

How My Single Friend Got Married

I have a friend with whom I taught at the same school. She had three kids and had separated from her husband two months after the 3rd baby was born. The husband was working in the army. One day, he went to work in Sudan, where he met with another woman and married her.

My friend (the army man’s first wife) was so devastated. She didn’t know where to begin with three kids in the house, all by herself, after the divorce. To cut a long story short, this lady friend of mine met another man in the church choir, whose wife had died in a road accident, leaving him with two boys. He was so traumatised that he never got the strength to marry again until then. He is now happily married to my lady friend. The same can happen to you.

5. Seeking Support

I will advise you not to die in problems. Seek help from friends or close family members. In this life, you cannot leave alone. You need people to help you in times of need. For instance, your kids might fall ill and need someone to assist them.

Sometimes, you might need to create time for yourself to run some errands. Organise with a relative or a close friend to accommodate your kids for 2 to 3 days.

If you are religious, the church leaders are very understanding. You can interact with them and share your problems whenever you feel discouraged. Never let stress ruin your life or your kids’. It’s good when you ask for help from somewhere.

6. Writing a will– Final tip of thriving in singlehood

I know this sounds awkward. Many people, including married people, are ignorant of how to write a will.

It prevents many problems that could occur in your kids’ lives. For instance, one of my aunts separated from her husband for more than twenty years. After her death(died of cancer), the ex-husband was demanding the property she left behind. Fortunately, she had already written a will naming her children as beneficiaries.

Don’t be ignorant. Writing it does not make you die. It is a good way of ensuring that your kids do not suffer in case of death. In this will, you nominate a responsible person to manage your wealth or care for your kids if you die.

7. Create a fulfilling personal routine.

Use your time to grow, learn, travel, rest, exercise, and pursue goals. A meaningful routine keeps your life exciting and purposeful. Create a fulfilling personal routine by planning each day around your well-being, goals, and joy. Start with a simple morning habit, such as prayer, exercise, journaling, or quiet reflection. Add time for work, rest, learning, hobbies, and social connections. Keep your schedule realistic so you do not feel pressured. A good routine should help you feel balanced, productive, peaceful, and excited about your single season every day with deep hope.

8. Learn to enjoy your own company

It comes with many responsibilities. However, how you handle your strengths and weaknesses determines your future.

Don’t let your miserable past dictate your future. Instead, use it as a strength to build on your future. Also, focus on your goals, your career, and your kids’ lives.

One day, the father of your kids will be ashamed when he sees them in prosperity. That is, if he is still alive. Pray for God’s good health for yourself and that of your kids.

I hope this article encouraged you as a single parent. In my next article, I will write about the benefits of singlehood. Stay in touch for more on that.